After taking a few days to think over my new therapy session I have decided to buy into it.
My new therapist told me that my last one had told her that he couldn’t give me the support I needed. I respect that, it’s not always easy to go to a superior and admit that you need help. He told her I need more regular and longer sessions – he couldn’t do this so she’s taking over.
She called me into her office and BAM – she was a total breath of fresh air.
I’ve never been in therapy before so my last therapist is the yard stick to measure against. I don’t know which one of these is the normal way therapist go about business, but then again I suppose that therapist are all different – like regular people 🙂
The first guy I saw treated me with absolute kid gloves in the 30/45 minutes I got to see him every month. He was soft spoken and gentle and totally non confrontational. I assumed that is what therapy is always like, someone softly speaking to you with a sad smile.
New lady blew that out of the water in 10 minutes. I still feel a little shell shocked by the meeting.
Her first worlds to me went a little something like this –
‘Mandy I’ve read all (first therapists) notes, I get the gist of what’s going on. Now let me tell you, you are going to see me every week and I’m going to help you out the other side of this. It’s going to be hard Mandy, it’s not going to be particularly pleasant BUT what’s happened to you has happened to lots of other women and they have all made it. Your also holding down a full time job, this wont be easy.
Mandy this is too big of a situation to deal with all in one go. I wouldn’t normally do this but considering your situation I’m going to ask you to compartmentalise it. We are going to deal with it a little at a time together. Stop thinking about what to do at the end of the 6 months house share, stop thinking about what you feel you have lost. I’m going to give you tasks to complete each week.
You are going to have to buy into this and help yourself. Your not mad, your not so broken that you won’t heal, everything takes time’
I don’t think she owns any kid gloves 🙂
My home work this week.
Start functioning independently at the most basic level
1 – stop accepting lifts to and from work. Get myself there and back.
2 – cook my own dinner unless going out for a meal, or at a friends house. Stop relying on house share to cook.
3 – start going shopping for food and household items again (fear of seeing them in the local supermarket together gives me panic attacks).
Looking at these I can’t believe how basic these things are, but I’m buying in. I’m going them, I’ve been shopping twice (when I know they are at work) and have made my own dinner every night.
I feel like a bit of a child really but I’m putting my trust in her. Something has to change soon, I’m hoping this is it.